The 5 Finest Fundamental Female Ways to Become Authentic

Do you want to understand more about yourself, your dreams and the struggles of your life? Today I like to tell you more about our online course Mindfunda Mythology.

This is the third of a six part blog about Mindfunda Mythology, an online course that will make your life easier:

The Creation myth: Genesis and The Big Bang
The Amazing Animal: The Animal in Mythology
Mythology of Men 
Mythology of Women
Mythology of the Trickster
Mythology of the Grail, Pulling Out the Sword
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In this blog I am going to share with you the information that composes the symphony of the fourth lesson of my online Mindfunda Mythology course. Each of the six lessons will give you about 25-30 pages of information. Each lesson has open-ended questions that will help you to interpret your dream diary in a different way. At least, that is what former participants have told me. Each lesson contains a list of recommended books to read. Mindfunda Mythology is a roadmap into self discovery. This blog will give you 5 ways to become more authentic.

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Art by Carlos Quevedo
#1: Female & the body principle

The first paragraph in Mindfunda Mythology of Women is about the body.  I was born in a female body. I like it. It took me a long time, I might add. When I was young I used to be called names for having such weird eyes. It made me sad and I wanted nothing more than to change myself. To be normal. More caucasian looking. Like my older sister with her blond hair and blue eyes. It seemed like she had the world at her feet.

The ultimate nightmare happened when I was given the part of Miss Piggy in a school play. Everybody in my class was making jokes and laughing about it. Being so humiliated in public, I decided to make myself as invisible as possible for the public eye. Being introverted, that is rather easy.

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Having children and growing older have changed the perception of my body. I am truly thankful that my body has done so much for me. And our time-spirit  has made being different become desirable. Acceptance is key. Becoming older is the fuel.

Let’s celebrate the way we are different. Different from the perfect models who are allowed to eat and have to Botox every sign of wisdom away! Miss Piggy and I we accepted each other: the divine Miss P.

#2:Female and the archetypes

Being Jungian, in my course Mindfunda Mythology  I devote a lot of time to female archetypes. It is an intuitive typology of possible female behaviour. The female archetypes are the Queen, the Mother, the Wise Woman and the Trickster.

To explain those archetypes I use famous females. I believe that people become stars because they behave in an archetypical way.

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Photo by Eva Rinaldi

 

Would you be able to determine which female archetype is represented by Stevie Nicks, Olivia Newton John, Meryl Streep, and Kathleen Turner ? Once you have finished this chapter of the six lesson course Mindfunda Mythology you will do so with ease. But let me know in the comments what you think, I would love to read your responses.

#3:Female and authenticity

I think my problem as a young girl is standard among women worldwide. You don’t feel valued if you don’t have certain physical features.

The rules are not spoken out loud. It is much more subtle. The beautiful girls get the attention. And invisibility hurts. You need to cope with that.

Society offers operations, make up, Botox. Don’t get me wrong. I would sign up right away if there was an affordable way for me to Botox away my frown wrinkles.

But the real solution is accepting and celebrating your authenticity. Ageing and Becoming is a good example of how two women, Susan Scott and Susan Schwartz embrace getting older.

Remember Women who Run With Wolves? The chapter in the course that involves becoming authentic discusses the story of Manawee.

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Manawee wants to marry two sisters but their father wants Mannawee to guess their names.

What does your name mean? Do you like your name? Does it fit the person you have grown into?

#4:Female and Decent

The most ultimate myth of any female is the one of Persephone and Demeter. The story of going to hell, losing your mother and finding your mate. The story about how each female needs to find a way to make hell a fertile place.

Here you can see Connie Kaplan talking about the importance of this myth for a female.

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Artwork: Persephone and Demeter
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Demeter, the mother archetype loses her daughter Persephone. Persephone has been abducted by the ruler of the underworld. While Demeter searches and mourns, Persephone becomes queen.

Have you become queen or are you still daughter?

#5:Jung and his anima

In the next chapter of Mindfunda Mythology we will explore how Jung created the concept of the anima by looking at his own life.

Jung was a living example of his own theory so we will explore some fertile grounds for self-development. The Red Book can be interpreted as a map for anima discovery.

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Using the exercises that accompany each lesson in this Mythology Course, you will experience an increased level of self understanding.

 

In the bonus paragraph of the course I will repeat all the possible archetypes and their variations in a very insightful table. After you have finished this lesson you will be knowledgable about both the male as the female side of your own personality. With that knowledge it will be so much easier to understand why people act the way they do.

All Excited? Mindfunda Mythology is designed to make the journey of your life easier. You will get:

  • Knowledge about the Sefiroth, the Cabalistic Tree of Life;
  • You will be introduced to the two main categories of myth so you can (re)connect with the strength of your inner animal;
  • You will have access to al the 24 possible ways of behaviour of male and female archetypes;
  • You will be able to tap into the power of the Trickster whenever you feel reluctant to follow the call of your own path;
  • All these methods and techniques will enable you to enlighten your inner fire, your personal Grail;
  • You will get 44 exercises during the course, an average 6 – 10 exercises per lesson to help you master the knowledge.

Let me know in the comments which female archetype you like best: the Queen, the Mother, the Wise Woman or the Trickster.

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THIS CONTENT IS CREATED BY SUSANNE VAN DOORN, AUTHOR AND OWNER OF MINDFUNDA; MAKING THE FUNDAMENTALS OF PSYCHOLOGY, MYTHOLOGY AND SPIRITUALITY EASY TO USE IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE!

What is Mindfunda about?

My name is Susanne van Doorn, I am a Dutch psychologist, blogger and author. I have been working with psychology, dreams and mythology ever since I finished my study in psychology at Tilburg University. I made this independant site to share insights, and recent scientific articles about the brain, dreams, and mythology for use in your personal life.

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“Myths are public dreams, dreams are private myths” Joseph Campbell used to say. This part of Mindfunda shows you how your personal mythology can create peace in your life.

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How To Use A Dream as a Tool for Self Development: A Case study

 

This dream is part of a series of four blogs. 
How to Use A Dream as a Tool For Self Development
How to Analyse a Dream with an Archetype in 4 Easy Steps
Q & A: 7 Questions and Answers about Dreaming and Mythology
Four Smart Questions and Answers About Dreams You had not Thought of Yourself

 

Self development is on top of the Maslow pyramid, and I always wondered why.

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Image: Simply Psychology

Because I have always had that innate need to understand myself better. I had no clue about this world and why people did the things they did. But I knew intuitively that if I was able to understand myself, my life would become so much easier. Because as Nietzsche said: “He who has a why to live can bear almost any how“.

Psychologist Maslow created a hierarchy of needs in 1942. I was right, his theory was never empirically confirmed. But it is a very useful tool to give someone insight into his own life. Today I will show you how a dream can give insight into the path of your own life. Six easy to follow steps. Let me know in the comments what you think about this case study. Do you have suggestions? I would love to hear them.

Self Development Through a Dream Step 1

The first thing you are going to need is a dream. If you have trouble remembering dreams here are ten useful tips.

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Can it be any dream? Well, I prefer dreams that evoke emotion. Because when emotions come into play in a dream, you are certain that it contains an important message. That is why nightmares and negative dreams are relevant clues for self-development.

Let’s analyse a dream of one of my clients. It is a short dream about a murder. A dream with an assassination is a clue that the Self is changing.

I am standing with my parents and brother in the street, and all of a sudden, a man comes running towards them and stabs my brother down“.

The dream is short, but had a big emotional impact on the dreamer. That is why she contacted me.

SELF DEVELOPMENT THROUGH A DREAM STEP 2

Now you want to get more information about the emotional background of the dreamer. This step is not always easy when you analyse your own dreams. Having an independent, knowledgable vision can add so much value to your dreams. But here is how I do it. I ask the dreamer to tell me the story of his (or her) life. So if you want to analyse your own dreams, sit down and tell the story of yourself, to yourself. You might be surprised about what you hear yourself say.

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Here are the questions I use:

  • Who are your parents? Many times in dreams patterns from childhood re-occur. This question will enable you to search for these patterns.
  • What were the challenges of your parents? While growing up, children become more aware that their parents are not almighty. Some people have the tendency to “inherit” their parents’ challenges, sometimes as an unconscious way to remain loyal to them.
  • Do you have brothers and sisters? 
  • If yes: how do you relate to them? Sibling rivalry is a core element of self-identification. This question let’s you determine if that is the case with your client.
  • What is the word that describes you best? Usefully people have great difficulty answering this question. Motivate them not to give a perfect answer, but the first one that pops into their mind. This first answer usually gives a vital direction for possible meanings of a dream.

This step can be very healing for clients. For most people it is a blessed relief that they are finally able to tell the story of their life to someone who actually listens. As an objective observant, you can add value by putting the story of their life in a bigger, mythological perspective.

SELF DEVELOPMENT THROUGH A DREAM STEP 3

Once you have the background information, it is time to focus on the dream.

I am standing with my parents and brother in the street, and all of a sudden, a man comes running towards them and stabs my brother down“.

This is dream narrated in the third perspective. The dreamer is an observer. the man comes out of nowhere and acts violently. Because the dreamer is of the female gender, the animus immediately comes to mind. How has the dreamer integrated the innate male principle, represented by the animus, in her daily life and actions? I decided to ask the dreamer to re-tell the dream story from the perspective of the murderer. In this way, she would be able to become more aware of this energy.

“I see four people standing in the street, and I want to show them my power. I need to be acknowledged. If I hurt the most vulnerable member, I will be acknowledged”.

Now your first question is going to be: why is your brother vulnerable? (That is why you always ask about siblings in the intake). The dreamer had told me that her brother needed extra care. The dreamer felt it was her responsibility to protect her brother, but in doing so, her own strength was diminished. That is why she was the outsider in the dream story. The next step is to let the dreamer re-tell the story from the perspective of the brother.

SELF DEVELOPMENT THROUGH A DREAM STEP 4

“I am standing in the street, protected on one side by my father, on the other side by my mother. My sister is standing on the side, she usually is a bit further away emotionally in our family. Even though I am protected I am being stabbed down by a mad man”.

You can see how the dream, told by the perspective of the brother, already reveals a great dependency upon the parents. For a woman, setting the power of the anima free, usually means stepping away from her parent (and that is why you ask about the relationship of the parents in step 1). The urge for self-development in this dream is apparent. Finding your own path. What does this dream advice the dreamer? The answer to these kind of questions are found in mythology.

SELF DEVELOPMENT THROUGH A DREAM STEP 5

At first sight, there does not seem to be any mythology in this dream. But there is one symbol is charged with mythology: the knife. Knives have a place in religion and magical ceremonies so this is an invitation for you as a dream consultant, to explore mythological options.

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In my eyes, (a dream belongs to the dreamer, always make sure that the dreamer knows this is your suggestion), the sword resembles the magical sword of Joan of Arc. Joan listened to her inner voices, and followed her own path. She embraced the strength of her animus. There are even suggestions that Joan actually was a man.

SELF DEVELOPMENT THROUGH A DREAM STEP 6

The last step is to take action. Self development requires action. Formulate an action point together with the dreamer. It is vital that the dreamer suggests an action point. You want the motivation to act on a dream to come from within. My client decided to sit down and write a conversation with her animus. Writing is good for the brain.

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A week after the consultation, I mailed my client to ask her about her action. The dreamer had gained insights into her relationship with her boyfriend and with her parents. She told me she had become more independent and felt more powerful.

I would like to know what your ways of working with dreams are. Do you agree with my steps? Or do you follow another process? I would love to hear from you.

THIS CONTENT IS CREATED BY SUSANNE VAN DOORN, AUTHOR AND OWNER OF MINDFUNDA; MAKING THE FUNDAMENTALS OF PSYCHOLOGY, MYTHOLOGY AND SPIRITUALITY EASY TO USE IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE!

What is Mindfunda about?

My name is Susanne van Doorn, I am a Dutch psychologist, blogger and author. I have been working with psychology, dreams and mythology ever since I finished my study in psychology at Tilburg University. I made this independant site to share insights, and recent scientific articles about the brain, dreams, and mythology for use in your personal life.

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